The conversation about women's self-defense , touch on the most common category of cases - domestic violence. In particular, domestic violence. Violence (physical and psychological), husbands against their wives, unfortunately, not surprise us. But let's think: what makes a normal, healthy woman to endure, sometimes for years, physical and moral degradation? It is not only physical weakness - the reason this is important, but it is far from home.
I have already said that in an open physical encounter with a man most women, the chances are small, but in this case is not the problem. After all, first, self-defense certainly suggests disparity (the very essence of self-defense training is to gain an advantage over physically stronger and more confident opponent.) Second, resistance to correct even at the stage of the conflict, avoiding battering.
And third, because it is important not to win high-handed relative, and to show willingness and ability to fend for themselves. Yes, the answer to the resistance of the "victim" may well become a new outbreak of aggression. But think about it: you're suffering in any case, this is already happening and most likely will happen next. Determined to fight back the same, you get a chance to stop all such incidents .
However, our women are suffering, brutality and lawlessness of pandering. How could argue his own inaction of the fair sex?
From our friends two women found themselves in a situation where the husband (or drunk with "gone crazy") to receive them to choke. Smothered in both cases is quite possible, without encountering serious resistance. Both, in his own words, fell into prostration, and later, to comprehend what had happened, realized that they could dodushit and if I wanted to. The clashes ended with no injuries simply because they prefer to let the pious wife. In general, these situations are very similar, but the reasons for inactivity were different, both are typical of fear and pity.
The first argument - fear. Many women simply fear response that can be triggered by their attempts to defend himself. The age-old principles of "what if something did not work" and "would not have been worse" once again prevent us from making life a little better. I will not argue that this fear is not justified. It is well known that "normal" man is much stronger than "ordinary" women. But to act on the forehead, opposing force strength, it is not necessary.
So what is the cause of long-suffering women in our culture? I suppose that explains a lot inside unwillingness to follow through in protecting their rights and interests. You can not get into a fight without a determination to do everything we can.
Also important is the fact that the development of the conflict towards the inevitable confrontation might lead to the disintegration of the family, which most women in our culture tend to avoid at all costs. "Even though paltry, and his," "endure, slyubitsya", "What to eat and a father to children" - continue to teach their daughters to patient Russian women. At the same time as something not taken into account that the effects of divorce are unlikely to be worse than the life that a woman is now living in constant fear and humiliation with scum, an alcoholic or a sadist.
Is this about my father for their children you wanted? What children can learn from him? It may be worth asking yourself: Why cling to an "alliance" with the person harassing you only one thing wrong?
As for the fear to suffer even more from the brutal husband, so he's can cross the line itself. Drink more than usual, dopetsya to hallucinations, just to be in a bad mood or in a scandal turned up under the knife hand - that's all.
And the vast majority of women will not allow a stranger to raise their hand to their child. Only touch - and the forces appear, and fear as had happened! However, the husband and wife beating and child - a fairly common phenomenon. Interests of the children, who often hide behind the patient wife, is systematically sacrificed to ... what? Public opinion ("Do not wash dirty linen in public"). Passively perceived "everyday truths" ("to be Razvedenkov - a shame"). The main thing is the very basis of female psychology, women desire for organic, consciously or unconsciously, to preserve rather than destroy, to pity, not pain.
From subjected to violence of women, we have heard: he is a native, as he hit? (Did you mean: strike "to take away," intentionally traumatizing - and the only way to stop the uncontrolled bastard.) We asked the women to question whether they are ready to defend themselves and to what extent the violence could get at this. Many referred to the inner barrier - "You can not hurt a living creature!" By suggestion traditional upbringing psychological weakness of women as nothing else interferes with the ability to fend for themselves.
Thus, the problem is psychological preparation of women is particularly acute model, regardless of their physical training, whether a short course in self-defense or prolonged training in martial arts. The need for violence to conflict with the internal units, and task the instructor - to allow this conflict or in any way to get around.
For example, to teach creation subpersonalities for "special cases" or if the woman agrees to study long enough and consistently, relying on natural change in a student's own personality in the right direction. But change must go for good - we do not call cultivate violence as a character trait. You must be sure that will be able to show the cruelty, if the need arises - no more and no less
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